How to Win Friends and Influence People - Dale Carnegie

It isn't what you have or who you are or where you are or what you are doing that makes you happy or unhappy. It is what you think about it.

How to Win Friends and Influence People is a popular book written by Dale Carnegie, first published in 1936. As you might've guessed, the book sells itself as a guidebook on how to make friends and influence other people's behaviors effectively. The book promises you to magically become more successful in your business, happier in your relationship, and more; if you just follow some dozen of rules explained in the book. Each rule is accompanied by testimonies of people (some of them are popular figures) that have applied it and how it helped him/her with their business.

I was a bit sceptical about this book at first because there's just no way that you can magically turn into a superstar salesman or manager just by reading this very thin book. But after reading through some of the ideas and stories behind these rules, these are actually very good advices that surely can help with our daily lives. Although one must be ready to fail when applying them, it is still worth the effort to try.

On the other hand, finding some of the rules overlapping with each other to some degrees makes it harder for me understand the book fully. Sometimes, I feel like the author repeats the same point with different rules. I need to go back to previous chapters every once in a while just to make sure that I wasn't reading the same chapter twice. However, given the large amount of rules the author had given in this book, I think it's actually better to read it more than once.

Overall, this is quite interesting book. Even though it's best to take these rules with a grain of salt and some scepticism, they could potentially make our personal and professional lives better.

How to Win Friends and Influence People
Dale Carnegie
First Published
October 1936